How To Use Repetition as a Fun and Effective Tool To Teach Our Children

by Kat on October 12, 2011

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Small children have a lot of information to process everyday, and it’s our job as moms to help them filter through to the important things.

So, in our home, we have “catch phrases,” songs and signals to help them remember and follow many of our rules:

My Mad Songwriting Skillz

For example, when my kids were really little, to remind them not to go outside, not to go in the street and not to touch the oven, I wrote a song.

It was called, “Don’t Go Outside, Don’t Go In The Street, Don’t Touch The Oven.”

And the lyrics are, “Don’t go outside, don’t go in the street, don’t touch the oven.”

Watch for it on the Grammys.

My kids love to sing it and I’ll occasionally hear them sing it to one another to remind them not to break a rule.

Quickly, Completely and Cheerfully

We also have a phrase that we’ve adopted from the folks at our church. When we ask our children to do something, we expect them to obey “Quickly, Completely and Cheerfully.”

We say this phrase many times throughout the day. If we find them dillydallying or being grumpy, we’ll ask them how we obey. They often run through the phrase in their head and then correct their actions.

Hand Signals

We also use a little hand signal to help them remember to ask for things politely. If they need the milk and say, “Give me the milk.” We’ll give them a thumbs up signal. They then remember to say, “May I have the milk?” as they open up each finger for each word until their hand is stretched out. (I also request that they add, “Please beautiful, wonderful, and gracious Mommy.” But that’s entirely optional.)

Repetition in Discipline

Finally, when one of the kids breaks a rule, we often use repetition as part of the discipline. So, if they speak in a rude voice to one of their siblings, I’ll have them apologize and then say, “I will use a nice voice when I talk to my sister” 10 times in a row. Or I might make them reenact the situation a couple time using the right voice to help them practice proper responses.

If there’s anything kids love, it’s repetition. Sometimes that works against our sanity, but we can also use it for good by developing creative ways to teach them.

What playful phrases or tricks do you use to help your children learn?

Kat blogs at Inspired To Action, a site dedicated to helping moms develop the habits and skills they need to effectively manage their homes and raise children who are prepared to change the world. Kat loves music, running, technology, Jesus and Tex-Mex food. Not necessarily in that order.

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  • Gabrielle

    Love that you included these concrete examples. Moms need some help to get things too! :) Thank you for this post. We will definitely be implementing some of these tools.

    • http://www.inspiredtoaction.com Kat

      You’re very welcome Gabrielle!

  • Angela

    This is great!  I use songs a lot to help them remember important info like phone numbers, but I never thought of doing that for a rule.  Love the ideas.  Thanks for sharing!

    • http://www.inspiredtoaction.com Kat

      Angela,
      Ironically, I’ve never thought of using a song to help my little one remember our phone number. Thanks!

  • Estalilla

    Very often we use a phrase “a place for everything and everything in it’s place” when we see that someone left something out of it’s proper place. All we have to do is to say the first word, and they catch on and correct the situation. Also, we make it a point to call our children by name and they need to respond “yes, mommy/daddy” before we give them a task or direction, that way we know we have their full attention. And then we expect them to repeat the command back to us. Hearing themselves say it helps them switch to it and stay focused. Our kids are 5, almost 3 and almost 2.

    • http://www.inspiredtoaction.com Kat

      Estalilla,
      Oh, that’s a good phrase. I need to use that one more around my home. I also like the repeating commands back to us idea. It’s a great way to make sure they heard and understood.

  • Helen Arcouette

    My children hear these phrases multiple times a day: “You are not the only one in the family. Please, wait your turn.” and “Obey first and then ask questions.” I like the ideas you have too. I will have to implement them. Right now actually since my girls are getting into my purse!

    • http://www.inspiredtoaction.com Kat

      Helen,
      I can hear it now, “The Purse Song.” :)

  • http://impressyourkids.com ohamanda {impress your kids}

    OK. Those are genius.

    When the kids disobey (or even just talk back or question why we’re asking them to do something) we’ll say, “Who do you obey?” They say, “Mommy and Daddy”. Then, “When do you obey?” They say, “Right now.” It’s a good reminder so I don’t have to yell, “YOU BETTER OBEY ME RIGHT NOW!!”

    And our favorite phrase that we repeat about 8billion times a day is in response to whining, “Do everything without complaining or arguing. Philippians 2:14″

    • http://www.facebook.com/julie.g.harding Julie Gilmore Harding

      Oh, I’ve repeated that verse about a billion times myself.  For a while we even had a shining star chart (from verse 15).  Every time she was “shining like a star” she put a star on the chart & when she got 10 she got a small prize. 

    • http://www.inspiredtoaction.com Kat

      I’m so excited to meet you in person in just a couple weeks!

      I think I might need to tatoo that verse to my forehead. :)

    • http://www.ladyofthebarn.com Kelli

      ohamanda – definitely adding that verse to all the other ones that I want to paint on my bathroom wall.

  • Lianawallace

    what tune do you sing the first song to?  love these and thanks for sharing—sometimes I want to do something to incorporate manners, values, etc but unsure of how to, such as obeying….

    • http://www.inspiredtoaction.com Kat

      I just made it up. I do have a recording of my youngest daughter singing it. I’ll have to see if I can upload that. It’s a masterpiece. ;)

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  • Lauren

    Kat these are just wonderful examples! My son is 20months and I feel that’s a great age to begin some songs and repetition, even if he doesn’t completely understand at this moment. I’m sure the repetition will help him understand more though! This post has inspired me to begin using some.

    • http://www.inspiredtoaction.com Kat

      Lauren,
      That’s definitely a great age to start!

  • http://www.echoinghim.com Jacquie

    Great post! We make up a lot of songs in our house, as we have found that singing is a fantastic way of dissolve bad attitudes and bring in a more cheerful atmosphere. I have a phrase that I use, “Listen and obey right away”, but I think it would be great to add your phrase of “quickly, completely and cheerfully”! Repetition is definitely key though and I’m often amazed at how much they remember what we say – especially if it’s in a song. :)

    • http://www.inspiredtoaction.com Kat

      Jacquie,
      “we have found that singing is a fantastic way of dissolve bad attitudes and bring in a more cheerful atmosphere”

      So true!

  • Tlasley

    Referring to the verse about not grumbling and complaining, we used the phrase, “Be a Shiner, not a Whiner!”  I also made up a sing-songy phrase because I cannot stand for a kid to say they’re bored.  When that happens, I say, “Say your bored, get a chore.”  Now, when someone says their bored (my kids are teens), I say, “Really??  Say your….” and they quickly take it back and get busy!

  • Hislovendures

    Love these ideas!  Especially the “Please beautiful, wonderful, and gracious Mommy.”  Perhaps I can teach that phase to my husband too (with wife instead of Mommy at the end) ;)

  • http://www.ladyofthebarn.com Kelli

    I must say that I love the, “Quickly, Completely, Cheerfully.”  I could use this in my life too.  Too Lord, “Okay Lord, I will do that Quickly, Completely, and Cheerfully”, Me.

  • http://www.ladyofthebarn.com Kelli

    Oh, you’ve done it now.  I read this post sometime early this morning and then later this afternoon, I made this song for my son.  Something like this, “If you pooh, you flush it down, flush it down, flush it down”, “if you pooh, you flush it down, flush it down, flush it down”, “flush it on down”. 

    I couldn’t come up with some great one the first time I make a song, Oh No, it had to be about pooh.

    • http://lifeyourway.net Mandi @ Life…Your Way

      I’m cracking up! You know you’re a mama when…you sing about pooh!

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